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Question: My friend is 19 but he acts like a kid! Help!?
I met this guy in University Symphony Orchestra 2 months ago. When I first met him,he was quite nice and friendly. After the orchestra rehearsal, all of us had a social in a bar. Suddenly this guy pointed at the pool table and asked me,”do you want to play the pool?I can teach you” I said “yes” . Later, he approached me again and asked me,”i can compose music. You can come to my room (he lives on campus) next time and I’ll show you my works”. I thought that he was very friendly although it was only my first time to meet him. I was glad that I had one more friend.

After a week,I saw him again in the symphony orchestra. He treated me like a sh*t this time! Four of us (we met one more guy,called Peter and one more girl called Mary in the orchestra) had a social in a bar after the orchestra rehearsal. We were drinking and talking. This guy suggested that we could play the game on his mobile phone. Actually I played the worst and I lost the game…:’-( Then this guy kept telling me stupid,” oh! you stupid! You lost again! Oh!you stupid! You ruined the game!” Peter and Mary played the game well and this guy complimented them by saying “hmm..quite good!” or “not bad”…but he just kept calling me “stupid”! I was very upset and a bit angry! I almost wanted to cry. It was not my fault that I lost the game. Why did he treat me like this?! I expected that everyone was friendly and polite because it was just our second time to meet each other. I felt excluded as he kept calling me “stupid”. I am always nice, outgoing and friendly to everyone, including this guy. but now he treats me like a sh*t, so I dislike him a bit. Then I said,”i gotta go now. Today is Halloween. I ‘m going to the castle with my friends now” He asked me,”oh,why didn’t you invite me?” I just ignored him and walked away.

but sometimes he’s nice to me. For example, he knows that I can play piano. Once he just approached me and gave me a copy of piano sheet music out of nowhere. He asked me,”hey,xxx(my name),can you play this piece?You can try to practice this one.This is an amazing piece”

Recently,he has started making fun of me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once we were sitting in the university library and using computers. He browsed my profile page on facebook. Then he “print screen” my profile page and set it as a background picture on the desktop! OMG! It is the computer in the library! I wanted to grab the keyboard and the mouse and tried to change the background picture but he stopped me from doing this!

Once when I was cooking in our friend’s house, he threw stuff at me…he threw balloon,aubergine and lemon at me! When we were having our lunch, Peter said,”oh,my tutor is so stupid! He…blah blah blah”. Then my guy friend said,”yes,he’s as stupid as xxx (my name)!” but he said this to me in a playful way.

Sometimes he calls me ‘fat’, ‘ugly’, ‘stupid’ and ‘idiot’ as well (in a playful way)! I want to say I’m not ugly and fat at all! Everyone thinks that I’m so skinny! My weight is only 52kg! He has some female friends who he really thinks they are ugly but he never calls them ‘ugly’ !! Once I asked him, “why didn’t you tell them that they’re ugly in front of them?” He said,”because they’ll feel hurt!” I asked him,”then why do you always call me ugly?!” He said playfully,”because you won’t feel hurt. Your heart is just like a brick wall! ” This is so unfair!!!!!!

Every time he sees me,he just touches my hair or messes my hair up! Once he told me,”haha,you know I love your hair!” What’s wrong with this guy? Sometimes he was so nice and sweet to me… but sometimes he’s mean to me (though in a playful way)! And once I asked him,”why do you always wind me up?” He said,”because I just love winding you up! haha”

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Answer by floppity
Why do you still hang around with him? Doesn’t sound like much of a friend to me.

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Question: Should I forget her as a friend?
(I warn you this is a little long but I’ll give 10 points)Ok,so I’ve been friends with this girl for a little over a year now and she was like my sister we did everything together.Recently we’ve not really been talking we have just a little because she’s gunna date the same guy I like and she knows I like him! He asked her out and he liked me at the time but was scared I would say no?(that’s what he said)And he doesn’t know I like him.Anyway I told her that I liked him again for the second time and she blew it off and never said anything about it.So I was determined to solve it so I told her again at school and she said,”oh” and I told her that I wasn’t trying to tell her not to date him because then I wouldn’t be being a good friend.Then I told her that if she was going to date him then maybe we should take some time off from our friendship.She said ok.Well later on in gym(the only class we have together)I ignored her as much as I could and talked to my other friends,because I was kinda upset that she would choose to date a guy and hurt her friend after she knew I liked him before he asked her out and she knew he liked me.So then a few days later she texts me this is our convo.:Her:are you mad at me? me:What are you talkin about? Her:i dont know me:why should I be mad or something? her:I hope not. me:well I’m botherd but I guess we won’t be hangin out anymore which doesnt really make me all that happy. her:oh,it doesnt make me happy either. me:well sometimes idk..it just seems like you would rather have him for a bf than me as a bestfriend and risk losing me as a friend. her:I want to have both of you guys. me:sometimes it doesnt seem like it i feels like you picked him over your best friend. her:If I ever do I never ment to.I dont ever wanna loose one of my true bff’s me:it feels like you already made your decision.and i think your taking a big risk. her:I don’t want our friendship to end. i never sent anything back because i felt like it was going in circle’s and shes was saying a load of bull.Then later on she texted me hey.And i never texted her back.She hasn’t talked to me today and I’m kinda glad it’s not just over this guy after I told her I liked him again she kept trying to sabotage my hair! She grabbed my hair and was like “ohh it’s no fair you don’t have split ends i want your hair!” (my hair was wavey that day and it’s normally straight as a bored)so she started straightening it and after it was straight she kept going over it and I just knew I was going to get split ends because it was already straight enough and sure enough I got split ends the next few days and I have to wash my hair with this really good shampoo so I felt like she ment to do my hair like that because she knew it was straight and she has horrible split ends from straightening her hair and I don’t becasue I dont have to straighten mine anyway I feel like she stabbed me in the back for a guy and that she’s ignoring my feelings so should I just forget her?Because I have plenty of other friends who have never done me that way.(sorry if this is long I had to do it like this so it would make more sense.)

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Answer by Stephilynn
If she cared about your friendship she would have actually taken the time to talk with you about this before she jumped into a relationship with this guy. I would let her go, friends like her are a dime a dozen, don’t stress over it. Plus for all you know her and him could be miserable and the only reason she’s keeping it going is so she doesn’t look like an ass for throwing your friendship away.

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Question: How do I get rid of an annoying, clingy, nosy, nuisance of a “friend”?
Hey guys. :)
My friends and I are in the seventh grade.
And, well, there’s this annoying girl that always follows my friends and I, or our “clique” (our “clique” consists of 6 girls; Tiana, Jessie, Ashlie, Hannah, Sabrina, and Me.) around, and copies off of us, butts into our convos, goes through our stuff, and always aks if she can borrow our stuff, like, a pencil, makeup, hairbrush, etc.
We’ve all just met her this school year, and she just now this month, started following us around and stuff.
And my friends and I just think she is down-right annoying.
And one time, Jessie was bored, so she stayed the night at Cameron’s house, and Cameron even told her, that she’s never been friends with popular people, and that’s the only reason she hangs out with us!
It’s VERY VERY VERY annoying. :(
And we want to get rid of her, but when we try to, she DOESN’T UNDERSTAND, and keeps following us! >:(
So here’s what happens in a typical day;
When everyone gets off of the buses, we wait outside to be called in.
And when my friends and I get in our group and talk untill we go in, she follows us, and gets in the middle of our circle.
And when we move, she follows.
She’s in my first hour, and my stupid teacher made me sit next to her for our seating chart.
Then she always asks me if she can borrow a pencil, or use my hair brush, or the compact mirrror that i carry in my binder.
In 2nd hour, she’s forced to sit in my row, but next to my friend, Hannah.
And she always takes Hannah’s stuff, like, she just takes it without asking!
She’ll read the notes we pass, and try to intercept them, and etc.
In third hour, she doesnt sit by me, so nothing really there.
She’s not in my 4th either.
But 5th is lunch & recess.
7th grade gets recess first, so when my friends and I are all sitting in the grass, she comes up, and follows us, and sits down, and starts talking and copying us, and the way we talk, and what we say.
Example;
Whenever someone says something to me like,
“Can I borrow your sweatshirt?”
I say, “I don’t beleive in sweatshirts.” as like a joke, or sarcasm, ya know?
Well, Cameron (the girl we’re trying to get rid of) was in the girl’s locker room with Hannah and Hannah said,
“Cameron, you should wear some makeup, or get a haircut.”
and Cameron said,
“I don’t belive in make up, or hair.”
It really made mad! :x
But anyways, she always touches our hair, and takes our necklaces, ear rings, and other accessories off and trys them on.
Then we usually get up, and run away from her and try to lose her, BUT SHE STILL FOLLOWS! :(
Then at lunch, we all sit at our table, and like always, she follows us, and sits at our table.
And at our school, if you don’t have your lunch card/ ID card, you’re not allowed to get lunch unless you want a detention.
So she NEVER brings her card, and NEVER eats lunch.
So when all 6 of us are sitting down eating, Cameron sits there and stares at us, and our food, and trys talking to us.
And she STEALS our food without asking.
Example;
Yesterday, I brought my lunch, and I had a bag with 6 cookies, one for everyone of my girls in my clique, none for Cameron, (lol), a bag of Cheetos, an “Uncrustable” sandwhich, a cup of fruit, and a juice box.
Wellll, Cameron took my cookies, and part of my sandwhich, without asking!
She just grabbed it, and shoved it down her throat!
So me and Sabrina started laughing at her, and she didn’t know why.
Well, it was because I asked anyone if they wanted my Cheetos, and Sabrina & Cameron both said “me” at the same time, but CAmeron yelled it.
So I tossed the bag to Sabrina. :p
And when no one was looking, Cameron took the bag of Cheetos, and ate more than half of the bag, and Sabrina caught her taking more, and was like, “WHAT THE F*CK?!” and Cameron started laughing.
But anywayyys.
Next is 6th hour, and of course, CAMERON IS IN MY CLASS.
And right now in math, we’re doing this project called, “Average sized student” and we measure each other, and right down eye color, weight, hair color, arm length, etc. and then we draw it life soze on butcher paper.
And this project lasts like, two weeks.
Well, we had to pick groups for this project.
And Me & Jessie are the only girls from our friends group in my 6th hour.
So me and her stood together, and then Cameron came up and was like, “Hey guys! Let’s be in a group together!” and before we responded, she told my teacher that us three were in our group together. >:/
So now, she always talks to us, and we ignore her and other poop. :p
And today, me & Jessie were passing a note about her, and she almost read it! :o
But we tackled her and got it back. :p
So next is 7th hour, and it’s P.E.
So our group of friends is together that whole hour.
And Cameron follows us, and copies us, and EVERYTHING.
So when we were walking on the track with Hannah, Sabrina, & Jessie, with Cameron following, I was like,
“I’ll be right back, I need to talk to Hannah for a second, in private.”
And Ca
And Cameron was like,
“Ohh, I’ll come! I’ll come!”
So me and Hannah ran untill she couldn’t keep up. :p
But yeah, then we go to homeroom for 5 minutes, and then home.
But NONE of my friends, nor do I, like Cameron.
She’s annyoing, and an extreme nuisance.
Please, how do we get rid of her without getting in trouble for being “bullies”? :p
Thankkkks. :D <3
And Cameron was like,
"Ohh, I'll come! I'll come!"
So me and Hannah ran untill she couldn't keep up. :p
But yeah, then we go to homeroom for 5 minutes, and then home.
But NONE of my friends, nor do I, like Cameron.
She's annyoing, and an extreme nuisance.
Please, how do we get rid of her without getting in trouble for being "bullies"? :p
Thankkkks. :D <3

Answer:

Answer by Daniel
Like OMG!
Get over yourselves!

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Question: what to do about a friend that likes to poke fun at your fears/insecurities?
I have this fear or insecurity about losing hair ever since I’ve noticed my father started losing it in his 50′s. Even though right now I have a full head of hair..the fear is still there. I told my friends about this and they think I’m nuts for even thinking about this issue while I still have hair but there’s this one friend that keeps poking fun at my fear. Like the other day we saw a guy with a bad comb-over she goes “that’s gonna be you…just wear a toupee” Or if I say something about aging she would poke fun and be like “that’s cause you don’t want to lose your hair…” Now she’s starting to do this more often and because I’m natrually sensitive to it and trying to not think about this stuff…it’s ticking me off. She has plenty of flaws but I don’t wanna stoop to her level and poke fun at her insecurity so I decide I want to cut off ties with her cause it’s getting on my nerves. Do you think that is the right thing to do? Would you do the same?

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Answer by Holly H
She probably has a crush on you and doesnt have anything else to talk to you about so she is persistent on using this to pick at you so she has a reason to talk to you, If not, shes probably being a bitch and I would stoop to her level one time and hurt her feelings so she will see how it is, then tell her why you said what you said and tell her that she bothers you when she picks on you…that or you m ight just be so freaked out by it that you are taking offense to it real easily

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